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National Domestic Violence Hotline
800-799-7233
National Sexual Assault Hotline
800-656-4673
Polaris Project (24/7 Trafficking Hotline)
888-373-7888
National Teen Dating Abuse Hotline
866-331-9474
Information
Here you can find information about Domestic Violence, Sexual Assault, Stalking, Dating Violence, and Sex Trafficking. As you are looking for answers, this will give you some beginning information. You can learn more by talking with an Advocate, attending Haseya Women's Education Group and exploring more information.

If you are fearful for your safety right now, we encourage you to CONTACT THE POLICE BY CALLING 911.
Are you in an abusive relationship?
Does your partner
— Physically hurt you? Push, hit, slap, kick, bite, choke, or punch you?
— Hurt your pets?
— Threaten to harm you or a loved one to get you to do something?
— Make you feel afraid by using looks or actions or destroy property to get you to do something?
— Verbally attack you, put you down, or regularly insult you?
— Control what you do or who you see or talk to?
— Blame the violence on you?
— Take your money? Prevent you from working?

If you answered YES to any of the above questions, you might be in an abusive relationship!
What is Domestic Violence?
Domestic violence refers to a pattern of physical violence or sexual violence occurring within a domestic or family relationship committed by an intimate current or former partner. Generally domestic violence is seen in male/female or same sex partner relationships.
Domestic violence takes many forms. The most recognized form of domestic violence is physical violence which may include hitting, punching, slapping, strangling, kicking and so on.

The physical forms of domestic violence include sexual violence such as attacking a woman’s breasts or genitals as well as raping her.

Domestic violence also includes a range of other actions intended to control. These tactics include unnatural forms of power and control: isolation, intimidation, using children, emotional abuse, economic abuse, coercion and threats, minimizing, denying and blaming, cultural abuse, ritual abuse, male privilege and sexual abuse.
Contact the
Haseya Advocate Program
719-896-2560


Learn more about your options and resources available for you. All contact is free and confidential. You are under no obligation to do anything.

The Haseya Advocate Phone line is answered from 9:00 am to 4:00 pm Monday - Friday.
Myth:
She (the battered woman) could leave anytime.


“If it were me, I would have left him a long time ago.” “Why does she stay when she is being battered?”

If you have probably heard one of these statements at least a few times or maybe you have even said one of them before. Actually, battered women do not have the luxury of being able to simply walk away from living with domestic violence.

The risk of lethality (getting killed) rises significantly when a woman decides to leave an abusive relationship or actually leaves. Women talk about considering the known vs. unknown, understanding the predictability of living with the violence and are fearful of what it might mean to try to leave. Women may believe there will be either another violent attack or they may be killed when they try to leave.

Leaving the relationship often means she (and her children) would have to leave her community. This could mean having to leave their village, pueblo, or reservation, the very place where she grew up, the place she calls home and draws her greatest support and identity from.

Leaving requires resources to support herself (and her children). Being able to have food, shelter, clothing, transportation and money become barriers. Battered women’s shelters provide some of these basic needs, however, the solutions are only temporary.

The emotional aspects of battering run very deep. Many battered women talk about the emotional and psychological battering that takes place and how difficult it is to heal from. Overtime, the battering takes an enormous amount of energy. Women talk about being exhausted from the battering with little energy to care for themselves or their children. They talk about their own loss of self, how it becomes increasingly more difficult to make decisions, imagine their future and plan their days.

In addition, some women want to believe that when he says he will never do it again, he means it.
What is Sexual Assault?
Sexual Assault is any unwanted, coerced, or forced sexual contact.

Sexual assault can be accomplished by use of force, threat of force, coercion, manipulation, instilling of fear or fraud (e.g. posing as a medical doctor or spiritual healer). To be considered a sexual offense, you are not required to physically fight or resist the perpetrator. A person may withdraw consent from the sexual contact at any time. Continued, non-consensual sexual contact typically constitutes sexual assault.

Sexual assault can harm a victim’s body, mind, emotions and spirit.

YOU have a right to say NO anytime!
CONSENT is the key factor in determining if a sexual act is criminal.
A person who is intoxicated or who has some cognitive disabilities (those who are developmentally disabled, have dementia, etc.) may not have the legal capacity to consent to the sexual contact. Sexual Violence is a crime, sex is the weapon.

If you are sexually assaulted:
• Go to a safe place.
• Seek medical attention
• Tell someone you trust.

Don’t change clothes, wash or douche – taking these steps will destroy evidence, should you decide to press charges.

Get medical attention. There could be internal injuries, a possibility of pregnancy, or venereal disease. You do NOT have to report to law enforcement if you seek medical attention.

Are you being stalked?
Stalking is a series of actions that make you feel afraid or in danger. Stalking is serious, often violent, and can escalate over time.

Stalking is a crime.
A stalker can be someone you know well or not at all. Most have dated or been involved with the people they stalk. Most stalking cases involve men stalking women, but men do stalk men, women do stalk women, and women do stalk men.

Some things stalkers do . . .
Repeatedly call you, including hang-ups.
Follow you and show up wherever you are.
Send unwanted gifts, letters, texts, or e-mails.
Damage your home, car, or other property.
Monitor your phone calls or computer use.
Use technology, like hidden cameras or global positioning systems (GPS), to track where you go.
Drive by or hang out at your home, school, or work.
Threaten to hurt you, your family, friends, or pets.
Find out about you by using public records or on-line search services, hiring investigators, going through your garbage, or contacting friends, family, neighbors, or co-workers.
Other actions that control, track, or frighten you.
Dating Violence
Teen Dating Violence is the physical, sexual, psychological, or emotional violence within a dating relationship, including stalking (CDC, 2014).

Teen Dating Violence Statistics
  • Violent behavior typically starts between the ages of 12-18 (Institute for Native Justice, 2015).
  • 1 in 3 teens experience dating violence (CDC, 2014).
  • 23% of females and 14% of males have experienced partner violence between 11 and 17 years old. (CDC, 2014).
  • Teen girls who are sexually and physically abused are six times more likely to become pregnant and twice as likely to get a Sexually Transmitted Infection (loveisrespect, 2014).
  • Girls and young women between the ages of 16 and 24 experience the highest rate of intimate partner violence, almost tripling the national average for women over 24 (Institute for Native Justice, 2015).
  • Suicide attempt rates are much higher for teens that experience violence: 50% of teens that were abused compared to 12.5% non-abused girls and 5.4% of non-abused boys (loveisrespect, 2015).
  • Teen victims tend to minimize the seriousness of the situation (Foshee & Langwick, 2010).
  • 81% of parents do not consider teen dating violence an issue or do not know if it is an issue (loveisrepsect, 2015).
  • Only 33% of teens that have experienced dating violence have told someone about it (Institute for Native Justice, 2015).
Sex Trafficking
American Indian reservations and Alaska Native Communities are major centers for sex trafficking (Pierce & Koepplinger). There are many social issues and conditions that perpetuate this fact.
  • The lack of housing on reservations and in urban Indian areas influence the vulnerability of Native youth to traffickers as the traffickers/pimps will provide housing in exchange for prostitution (Garden of Truth: The Prostitution and Trafficking of Native Women in Minnesota).
  • Native women are specifically targeted due to being seen as versatile: they can pass as other ethnicities: such as Hawaiian, Asian etc. (Pierce & Koepplinger).
  • “[Inter]generational trauma in combination with prior physical and/or sexual victimization can further intensify Native women’s and youth’s vulnerability to traffickers especially traffickers that portray the sex trade as a quick path to empowerment and financial independence.” (Pierce & Koepplonger, P.3).
  • Recruitment is being done at schools, parties, youth programs and at the homes of relatives (Pierce & Kopplinger). Shopping malls may also be a place where Native youth are being recruited.
  • 39% of the Native women interviewed for Garden of Truth study were prostituted when they were minors.
  • In this same study, 75% of the women engaged in prostitution for an exchange in food, shelter or drugs.
  • Native youth who are at risk/vulnerable of being recruited by pimps are: youth in desperate situations such as homelessness, extreme poverty; vulnerability due to disabilities, substance addictions, and marginalized gender identity (Pierce & Koepplinger; Garden of Truth: The Prostitution and Trafficking of Native Women in Minnesota). Because homelessness and poverty effects Native youth at a high rate, this vulnerability/risk heavily impacts them.
  • Native youth are often recruited by pimps on reservations but can and often are relocated to urban cities to be sold for sex (Pierce & Koepplinger).
Violence Against American Indian and Alaska Native Women and Men
2010 Findings from the National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey

A report from the National Institute of Justice provides stark new data about violence against american Indian and Alaska Native women and men. this reports helps us to gain awareness and understanding about violence against American Indian and Alaska Native women and men.
NATIVE COMMUNITIES BEAR HIGH BURDENS OF VIOLENCE OF ALL TYPES

— 56.1 percent have experienced sexual violence.
— 55.5 percent have experienced physical violence by an intimate partner.
— 48.8 percent have experienced stalking.
— 66.4 percent have experienced psychological aggression by an intimate partner.
Women: More than 1 in 2 American Indian and Alaska Native women (56.1 percent) have experienced any type of sexual violence in their life me. Past year estimates suggested 14.4 percent have experienced sexual violence (pp 13-16).
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